今天久違的去女僕店~39Please respect copyright.PENANAao6BY3tzhs
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,39Please respect copyright.PENANA1UupEvQjQg
以至於我今天臨時改題目。39Please respect copyright.PENANAVTF0Jzb1FN
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,39Please respect copyright.PENANAW4Bwul8pUq
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,39Please respect copyright.PENANAkzFKZc3VSL
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,39Please respect copyright.PENANAJPExFeBjuI
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...39Please respect copyright.PENANAPCH7zG5WEU
第一次是當著我的面前,39Please respect copyright.PENANAV66wEeZBxP
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,39Please respect copyright.PENANAeECcJFFxOK
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...39Please respect copyright.PENANAHr6DrWDXFQ
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...39Please respect copyright.PENANA3L4ACOoNyB
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,39Please respect copyright.PENANAcmxlVkFYD7
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,39Please respect copyright.PENANAMDXx16IkUw
因為發生得太快了,39Please respect copyright.PENANAeGdyi33ogm
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,39Please respect copyright.PENANAcGUpDi0Xr2
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...39Please respect copyright.PENANAMMzLt00nvc
讓我傷心的是,39Please respect copyright.PENANAbMEMkgSSEB
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,39Please respect copyright.PENANA8hs258jjGt
其他都是男客人。39Please respect copyright.PENANAQhgacbODkm
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,39Please respect copyright.PENANAlyw1LX6Tbi
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,39Please respect copyright.PENANAcZ08OSQmL6
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...39Please respect copyright.PENANArMQ512q1TQ
因為是背對著我的動作,39Please respect copyright.PENANA9GBjNk00rC
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,39Please respect copyright.PENANAaBvchqm52H
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,39Please respect copyright.PENANA4I6k4UAnZh
但我覺得即使是女僕,39Please respect copyright.PENANA4Ha3Qa6oNj
以服務主人為名義,39Please respect copyright.PENANAUVT5IU2YDV
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。39Please respect copyright.PENANATsRWcEOltK
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:39Please respect copyright.PENANAwaRM4oveor
這就只是打情罵俏呀~39Please respect copyright.PENANAND4I2ay6Ud
「這樣很可愛」39Please respect copyright.PENANAWyp1cAWm4O
之類的...39Please respect copyright.PENANAkql65nZ9MN
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,39Please respect copyright.PENANAAlYf1zzWoG
相信不會有人說很可愛,39Please respect copyright.PENANAlHAuvya0Me
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...39Please respect copyright.PENANARH5CcJSOEn
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,39Please respect copyright.PENANAHqecKyw0KX
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...39Please respect copyright.PENANA8WR9VzrvRv
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...39Please respect copyright.PENANAKai3aqoAVv
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,39Please respect copyright.PENANA8561mAJfQC
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...39Please respect copyright.PENANApLIOkFaVel
可是發生問題的當下,39Please respect copyright.PENANAxf6zUMCnzU
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,39Please respect copyright.PENANAsVcq9HCJ78
她說心情有被我影響...39Please respect copyright.PENANAxOU5uQEckp
然而我跟她解釋,39Please respect copyright.PENANAWgvux1zMRQ
我還是會去光顧~39Please respect copyright.PENANAI27XW22EUu
因為說真的發生這種事情,39Please respect copyright.PENANAiMrUT3pyph
我如果出手,39Please respect copyright.PENANApGH40XJmuO
場面會很尷尬,39Please respect copyright.PENANAiGfBT0B1Sn
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...39Please respect copyright.PENANAhuw2rUzfvh
終究我只能安慰自己:39Please respect copyright.PENANALlmLq0ZNMq
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...39Please respect copyright.PENANAVpcG6kbm1s
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,39Please respect copyright.PENANAAZGBElCYOi
但是把事情跟二姊說,39Please respect copyright.PENANApSvxWMzMp0
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,39Please respect copyright.PENANAnZdhjIko3F
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,39Please respect copyright.PENANAr4OqDE8Vc9
如果是學長的話,39Please respect copyright.PENANARGKV1CHAtu
他會怎麼做呢?39Please respect copyright.PENANAJcOUDgf2N0
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,39Please respect copyright.PENANAap0vOLDrMN
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,39Please respect copyright.PENANA9V5ktzI8dd
我想第一種可能的做法是:39Please respect copyright.PENANAFWZ7UenkVS
學長可能會說:39Please respect copyright.PENANAXdmJy51n2d
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」39Please respect copyright.PENANAUF2F2Dzj4x
一方面是讓加害者知道,39Please respect copyright.PENANAAwiAv0efSe
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,39Please respect copyright.PENANAgZlqZA5ZQW
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。39Please respect copyright.PENANA362cWXbOf6(有下次就把你送去性平會)39Please respect copyright.PENANAebyPpz2rtj
第二種可能的做法是,39Please respect copyright.PENANAIGQtnnvGxn
事情發生後,39Please respect copyright.PENANAO79sIiekTJ
等Staff走遠,39Please respect copyright.PENANAl6hElMI2Qy
學長會問女僕:39Please respect copyright.PENANApVg4Y09KDF
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,39Please respect copyright.PENANAWm6qN1wRV5
怕他傷到妳了~」39Please respect copyright.PENANATotAUjcKcZ
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。39Please respect copyright.PENANA6ifSkQ78D4
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,39Please respect copyright.PENANA75azVoUe7J
也是讓女僕意識到,39Please respect copyright.PENANAhOOmqRy8tZ
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,39Please respect copyright.PENANAzPYoCIlRTn
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...39Please respect copyright.PENANAyl4ayZZ3mS
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。39Please respect copyright.PENANANuySSz2l4Q
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,39Please respect copyright.PENANAk5E16hFhcv
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,39Please respect copyright.PENANARXE6Rcodzr
其實跟第二種的差別就是:39Please respect copyright.PENANAG2erg8m4ym
改用寫的。39Please respect copyright.PENANAzNL8cZlvV5
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,39Please respect copyright.PENANA37nQdiPABw
用寫的話,39Please respect copyright.PENANAXKqD1GkUWS
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,39Please respect copyright.PENANAoJpkOxIeS6
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,39Please respect copyright.PENANA9SY2fYTPKf
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),39Please respect copyright.PENANA8zpunItdEm
當然也可能微笑置之不理。39Please respect copyright.PENANATM6YzST6G9
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)39Please respect copyright.PENANA6yRU7YpXJk
總之,39Please respect copyright.PENANAgU608rNGqY
客人也會心理不安,39Please respect copyright.PENANAVmGNsGEbU2
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。39Please respect copyright.PENANAOMa1WiIo4J
如果Staff有這種小動作,39Please respect copyright.PENANAzOVZDAhwy7
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,39Please respect copyright.PENANAbGTQXIvHJf
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)39Please respect copyright.PENANAEUfZcDRini
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,39Please respect copyright.PENANAQOg9GYDhUl
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...39Please respect copyright.PENANAiQtwELIamE
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,39Please respect copyright.PENANAEe1f46BFDN
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...39Please respect copyright.PENANAht4KdErIIi
(會犯的人就是會犯)39Please respect copyright.PENANAQkE5KqY6aH
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,39Please respect copyright.PENANAt5AExG1h9m
比起只是在心裡想,39Please respect copyright.PENANA3ym6aDBx5f
也許有那麼一天,39Please respect copyright.PENANA5cEPPhY3t0
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~39Please respect copyright.PENANAaLspU7FY4M
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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